Dude, I used to worry about everything. EVERYTHING. Money, my future, my friends, security, stability, happiness, love, time. EVERYTHING. My life coach really beat me up on this one and helped me realize that I was a crazy, insecure, anxiety-ridden, control freak about all kinds of weird stuff. Remember that post where I got stressed out about running into friends when I was walking the dog?
Slowly, over time, and which much effort, I started to let go. Here’s how I did it. I only allowed myself to focus on the present moment - be it walking the dog, washing dishes, practicing fiddle. Whatever I was doing, it was all I let myself think about.
What happened as a result of such? I was much more present IN the moment. I experienced and enjoyed things on a deeper level. I’m more alert and focused when I’m working. I listen more to what my friends are saying when we see each other. And the other benefit? Because I’m more tuned in and responsive in the moment, I’m less likely to remember something that happened a few days ago and think, “OH shit! I totally should have done X in that moment!” because I was aware and DID X in that moment. I don’t worry as much about the future because what I do in the present tends to naturally pave the way for those things.
You can't change the past. You don't know what will happen in the future, but you can control a lot of what you're doing and feeling in the present. I’ve learned that there’s no point in sweating the stuff that’s out of your immediate reach, that worrying tends to create stress and little else, and also, that things have a weird tendency to work out for the best when you don’t super-obsessively try to manipulate the outcome.
As for scheduling? Man, I hate that now! Now that I’ve let go of my schedule, life creates its own perfect path. The other day I finished something up much earlier than I’d expected and thought, “Hmm, I wonder what I’ll do with all this free time?” Ten minutes later, my phone rang.